• Feast or famine...

    Have been enjoying the company of my Amusing Academic (AA) who visits regularly for company as well as sex and spanking. Was also seeing Mr Poly about once a month or two for walks, meals, kisses, cuddles and sex, but he'd gone quiet since before Christmas. I knew that there was family stuff going on so not surprised. he has been back in touch and we've set up a date.

    My Semi-detached Married man(SDMM) did not get in touch after his holiday and neither did My Lovely Young man (LYM) - a shame as either or both would have been a delightful occasional treat.

    My sweet and nervous man from the Swansea valleys sans transport and mobile phone has however become a regular fixture. He has family carer responsibilities and is very much a hometown boy. we've had some nice days out and watch movies at my place and have some time in bed as well. Although in his fifties, he is somewhat limited in his experiences both social and sexual so it feels like being teenagers which is fun if limited erotically, but rather sweet.

    I was thinking that I ought to make more effort to find some friends with benefits who may fill gaps in my itinerary when I got a message on the old straight dating site - a chap who lives about thirty miles away is a music teacher into psychology and interested in polyamory and finding out about mt hinted-at "alternative fantasies"! We exchanged enthusiastic messages, arranged a meet, then silence! i sent message saying I assumed cold feet/change of mind and wished him luck, but no response.

    Having visited site again I seem to have triggered it's matchmaking tendencies and started getting messages about potential dates, one of whom wrote to me - An arty West-Walian with interests and professional background similar to mine. We've had a first meeting and have arranged another so watch this space.

    Another chap from that site also got in touch - we'd nearly met over a year ago but his daughter sprained her ankle and he then decided he wanted to meet women not seeing anyone else which was fair enough. Sounds like he may be interested and there's been a few positive comments on my profile from other men, so I shall see what happens...

    What I really want is someone who lives within reasonable distance wants regular enthusiastic sex every week or two on a mid-week afternoon or evening and can make me smile and hold a simple conversation. of course we'd also have to fancy each other as well not too much to ask...!

  • Pre-date dates

    I think of first meets as pre-dates rather than actual dates. Hopefully this takes the pressure off and makes it clear that nothing is going to happen other than ice-breaking.

    Met a very sweet and nervous man from the Swansea valleys who lacks own transport and mobile phone - so that was a bit of a challenge! We met in a town centre and went to a pub and talked non-stop for a couple of hours - always a good sign. Agreed we want to meet again but logistics will be the challenge - luckily he is within 20 mile radius so I shall be collecting him for our first actual date which will be a bit strange...

  • Just been reading a Master and slave diary...

    ...on the norty site - quite entertaining, but not my style. it seems he has an orgasmatron which gets all the wee slavies helpless but actually remains unnamed. it competes with his amazing penis, fingers, eyes, butt-plug, shackles and an array of BDSM equipment and all go home happy bunnies.

    Despite my flippancy, am sure they are all having a lovely time and if genuine it's fab that they are finding fulfilment.

    Can't wait to see the ads - perhaps a Master in a jiffy bag? How undignified! :))

  • Cyber dating documentary

    This is the Panorama documentary on the dodgy side of cyberdating. Quite good I thought.

    Of course "Tainted Love" takes me straight back to the eighties, New Romantics and the Soft Cell version of a song by that name...

  • The further adventures...

    Well, had weekend planned with my Amusing Academic (AA) - by the time he arrived we were both starving so a curry was called for and duly relished. Despite being full of curry after a long journey and day's work AA was somewhat frisky and spanking and sex ensued! it had been a while so he go a bit carried away with the toys - particuarly the tawse and cane. I always complain vociferously, but only because it is such fun despite/because of the pain! Had lovely time doing ordinary stuff over weekend like admire the sea and eat icecream - it's a hard life...

    Had a lovely visit from Mr Poly - went for a couple of walks, ate ice-cream (a hobby of mine!) and had some lovely sex before indulging in Chinese food - as you can see - I'm very cosmopoitan!

    My Semi-detached Married man(SDMM) did indeed have good reason to not be aroud and messaged to say he was off for a much-needed holiday. I wished him well and said I'd be pleased to hear from him on his return.

    My Lovely Young man (LYM)was about to go away again I believe, but we exchanged messages to say we'd enjoyed each other's company - we're so polite! - so I may hear from him when next around...

    Have had odd exchanges (some very odd!)on the norty site and agreed to further info exchanges and/or safe meets, but all quiet. Just watched docu on dating sites and their dodginess - will write more another time.

  • Negatives of cyber dating

    I am using a straight dating site that has emphasis on sex - Clue - lots-more-marine-creatures site. My "bit" is apparently the bit for naughty gilled beings. It is frustrating because like any sites it advertises one's profile across various sites. I was actually "found" on something called "Casual sl*ts"! I fell about laughing but chap who found me was a bit embarrassed...

    This tipping us all out together means that those looking for kinky stuff, older women, naughty marrieds or whatever assume that others are kindred spirits so a bit confsing.

    The other thing I'd not twigged at first was that men have to pay to do anything other than look through the window of the sexual sweetie shop while full membership is free to women who are the bait to part the men from their money. I hate both the prostituting of the women and the financial exploitation of the men, but I guess it is a business model that works like nightclubs of the seventies and eighties that did similar...

    Writing anything less than how keen you are for a shag gets censored, so criticising the site or explaining you are not up for anything and always available simply doesn't get posted, so one has to be creative in profile and diary.

    Despite the negatives, it is very amusing being in the goldfish bowl and while there are the inevitible invitations for a quick shag, there are perfectly nice and interesting men lurking in the shallows.

    Frustratingly, despite promising starts many men just disappear for reasons I've not fathomed. Seems this is true of men and women. Someone I know who has wonderful relationship that started in cyber had similar experiences as did his female partner. We talked about how some men would ignore everything written and write to women with whom there was no common ground and seemed particularly excited by geographical proximity.

    My friend summed it up as:
    'Come round for a shag and pick up a loaf on the way - On second thoughts that's too much trouble - Just bring the bread and forget the shag!'

    And yes - I do know that there are loads more men than women on these sites and men have a frustrating time of it, but the women are not always spoilt for choice and do get messed around. But as said - some nice chaps around and it is an amusing experience if entered in a spirit of adventure.

  • Never mind "man in a Jiffybag"...

    ...seems I can get a "Goodenough Man" from Amazon - I dare not look...!

  • Update (again!)

    Cyber dating continues to irritate and amuse for various reasons which I'll discuss further in another post.

    On a personal note things are ticking over quite pleasantly. My Amusing Academic (AA) continues to be a regular feature in my life and we spend time doing ordinary stuff as well as sex and spanking - a perfect "friend with benefits".

    Mr Poly continues to visit once every month or so and we have lovely vanilla sex and social time.

    Sadly my Naughty Married Man wandered off in search of pastures new... We both had famerlee stuff and then he never got back in touch. My subscription to the norty straight site suddenly started to play up and as it is so dodgy I didn't want to give them any more info on me so rejoined with new name. To my amusement several people who'd been enthusiastic, then disappeared on me in my last guise re-emerged from the woodwork including NMM. As I'm not after a(n) LTR and/or fidelity they have every right, but if they are too busy to get back to me but available to chase fresh meat then they're obviously not that into me in the words of the film.

    I confessed change of identity to a few including NMM and put it down to experience.

    Have had several first meetings recently - always safe and public places - and most have come to naught.

    Met a nice Semi-Detatched Married Man for a couple of "getting to know you" meetings and really liked him despite being about fifteen years younger than me - the clincher for our age difference is that he thinks Centigrade and I'm Fahrenheit! Despite this we got on and then had assignation of the erotic kind.

    Had some very nice first-time sex with SDMM who was in middle of quite emotionally and practically challenging and time-consuming stuff. He's not been in touch and there may or may not be good reason, but I decided that was risk I was OK about. While not looking for a one night stand I now enter new adventures only if I feel OK if they do not progress. Not beng in search of "Mr Right" makes it fine. For me, taking a chance on "Mr Goodenough" in a spirit of advenure can be quite affirming and fun if encounter entered into, in good faith. I am clear that I am NOT looking for a one night stand, and would say if I didn't want a repeat, but I suspect others are less honest or change their mind - that's life.

    I had message on Norty Straight Site from man who wrote nice note of regret that I was not considering significantly younger men so as he was local I agreed to a drink with man 25 years my junior!88| He was lovley. Works abroad so difficult to meet women. We had drink and went for a walk when we were accosted (sort of!)by a bicycling vicar of my acquaintance - not a standard first date, then...! Vicar and I have both moved to within a mile of each other and I look forward to our catch-up! I have "confessed" to cyber-dating men who are more than twenty years my junior - luckily he is a friend who knows me well... Lovely Young Man took this in his stride and we arranged a proper date.

    My date with LYM was eventually a late evening encounter due to diary commitments and a sporting obligation on his part. This was a lovely and somewhat erotic fixture back at mine with lots of kissing, cuddling and other lovely stuff as well as some decidedly enthusiastic fucking in a variety of positions. being somewhat "full-figured" I am not over-keen on being on top, but found that it was a rather pleasant memory to revisit as was his matching enthusiasm for the crudely named but delightful doggy position. Younger men and my contemporaries both seem to have a lot in their favour...!

    I have a weekend with my Amusing Academic coming up and Mr Poly and I have a day out followed by some R&R in the diary for next week.

    Will be nice to take things further with SDMM and LYM, but enjoyed my encounters if nothing further develops.

  • Life is fun...

    Had a pleasant hour and a half with my latest lover and good as he is at sex in general I am getting quite a taste for good old-fashioned fucking - very satisfying and great fun.

    Also had a few days with my Amusing Academiic. We played some delicious games where he got carried away with canes, ruler and various implements and then gave me some more traditional attention which was very nice.

    I consider myself lucky to be having such delicious fun in my late fifties - took a while to get sorted and met (or more often failed to meet!) various frogs but very happy with my lot at the moment...

  • Purely in the interests of science...

    ...I've got my ruler out. And so - the vexed question - Does size matter? And - yes - I am talking penile dimensions!

    According to the Great God Wiki:

    In a small study conducted by University of Texas-Pan American and published in BMC Women's Health, 50 undergraduate women were surveyed by two popular male athletes on campus about their perceptions of sexual satisfaction and it was concluded that the width of a penis feels better than the length of a penis, when subjects are asked to choose between the two (size was left unspecified). It was also concluded that this may show that penis size overall affects sexual satisfaction since women chose between the two options they were given.[46]

    In a cover story by Psychology Today,[47][48] 1,500 readers (about 2/3 women) were surveyed about male body image. Many of the women were not particularly concerned with penis size and over 71% thought men overemphasized the importance of penis size and shape. Generally, the women polled cared more about width than men thought, and less about length than men thought, although the strength of caring for either among women showed a similar pattern.

    It also seems Wiki again!) that the average length is 5" which looking at my trusty ruler seems plenty. But then I was a bit intimidated fisrt time I got my rabbit out of the box!

    I believe there are women out there after massive cocks but I suspect they are a minority. A solid four to six inches are a delight but not a necessity and there are always rabbits and similar if desired...


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